So if you follow me on Instagram, you know that I recently was in Orlando, going to Disney World. While I was there, I stayed with one of my best friends, Rachel. I had told her about the book club before I had come out there and while I was helping her pack up her stuff, she came across an old book of hers, “Better Single than Sorry.” She urged that I read it and so I figured why not make it the book of the week? I’ve always been very open about my relationships and the fact that I am a hopeless romantic. I genuinely believe there’s someone out there for everyone. So when I read the title of this, I wasn’t sure to expect.
Jen Schefft, the author, is a pervious Bachelor cast mate who famously turned down two different proposals on national TV and is in the search for true love. I did my research on her and turns out she ended up getting married two years after the book so apparently she knows what she’s talking about, right? She dedicates the whole book using single, married, and divorced friends as an example of what to do and what not to do when it comes to relationships.
Now, I want to be real with you for a second. Although I have always found myself in a relationship and have even joked that I was a “serial dater,” I have never felt the pressure to be in a relationship or married by friends or family. I think I’m lucky with that aspect. And although people that I knew in high school are getting married one by one, the older I get, the more I realize that I’m not ready for marriage. I still have a lot of growing up to do and I want to be able to make a name for myself before I settle down and start a family. I’ve always been in relationships because I enjoy the company of someone that I can call my best friend.
I think the biggest issue I had with this book is the fact that I had a hard time relating at points. I have no intentions of settling for someone just because I want to get married. In fact, I’d rather be caught dead (too dramatic? probably, but I don’t care). If there is one thing that I don’t think people should settle for, it’s love. Why be in a relationship with someone who you can imagine your life without? You risk the chance of missing out on the person who checks every single box of what you want in a person because you were feeling lonely. And this is something that Jen touches on throughout the book.
But I want to give you guys a heads up.. everything she says, you should already know. Now, that’s not to say it’s not a nice little reminder. I think every now and then we need a kick in the butt and a good pep talk and Schefft offers that. But it can be very redundant. So I will sum up the moral of the story:
There are billions of people in the world. Chances are, you’re going to meet some not so great people. Or you’re going to meet great people and it’s not going to work out the way you want it to. That’s okay. It’s okay to be 35 and single. It’s okay to be 23 and married. Everyone moves at their own pace and you will find your person. You can’t jeopardize your future by settling for a mediocre relationship. Trust your gut. Trust in the universe. And if you go on a few terrible dates or meet a few terrible people, don’t give up. That’s part of the process. Everyone has someone. You just have to be patient. The thing that matters most in your life is your relationship to yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect other’s to love you the way you want? You can’t.
Overall, if you’re having a hard time feeling like you’re behind because you’re not in a relationship or you’re feeling pressure from friends and family, I recommend reading this book. It’ll have you saying f*ck it in no time.
Overall rating: 3.5/5
You can buy the book here: Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling
Have you guys read this book? What did you think of it? I’d love to hear other people’s opinions! Can’t wait to share next weeks book. Until then. XO